Having just celebrated a double digit birthday, I have been reflecting on another double digit birthday of mine. When I was young I thought the perfect age was 22. I would dream about how great life was going to be when I turned 22. Somehow in my child mind, I had considered 22 to be the perfect age. Well my 22nd year came and went and I hardly noticed I had arrived at the nirvana age I had always dreamt about. As I celebrated another double digit birthday, I’ve decided to give my 22-year-old self, some advice. If I knew then what I know now, this is what I would have said to myself.
Give yourself more grace than you think you deserve and it will spill over you onto everyone else. As Frederick Buechner said “In the last and final analysis all moments are key moments and life itself is grace” Amen and Amen
FAIL FAIL FAIL
You will fail. Don’t spend a lot of time trying not to fail. It will happen. And in the end it is more about how you respond to your failures then if you never fail at all.
Always create a space for creating
Every home, every day, every life needs space in it for creating. Give yourself that permission that comes from designating space (physical, emotional, time) for creating. We were created in the image of a Creative Being. CREATE
The shadows are needed to appreciate the light
Don’t gloss over the dark places. They have much to teach us about the light. The shadows are there for all of us and shape us one way or another. The shadows give the objects definition.
Know your heart
You’ve spent most of your life training your brain, now it’s time to learn about your heart. Who are you? Why do respond the way you do? Why do you make the choices you make? So when you’re talking to your mother, you can talk less about your schedule and activities and more about your heart.
Don’t worry so much about Dillon learning math
Every child is different and some of them simply don’t fit into our current institutional educational system. Too many hours are spent trying to mold kids into a form that they just don’t fit into. Love them for who they are and build their character more than their IQ.
See God everywhere, every minute, with everyone
Engage every single second intentionally seeing God. Don’t worry about where you need to be next and what you need to do later. Be wholly present with every moment. This will affect the way you pray as you keep an ongoing dialogue open with God. You will commune with the creator of the universe in a different way.
RELAX. Vacation more with your extended family. DON’T SPEND SO MUCH TIME ON THE MATERIAL STUFF. Invite more people to dinner more often. LISTEN MORE AND TALK LESS. Stories – learn yours, tell it to others, teach them to know their own.